The role of the tou’a in Tongan society has recently become a focal point of debate on social media platforms, catalyzed by ‘Akanesi Kaufusi’s provocative remarks on her Pacific Empowerment Podcast. Kaufusi, a podcaster and entrepreneur, labeled the tou’a role as akin to a “watered-down version of prostitution.” This controversial characterization has sparked both backlash and support among the Tongan community.
Kaufusi calls for the abolition of the tou’a role, highlighting that it involves women being paid for service in a context that can lead to sexual objectification, often by married men. She argues that this practice reduces women to mere objects of entertainment, a stark departure from the traditional respect the role commanded.
Traditionally, the tou’a is an unmarried young woman tasked with serving kava to men, embodying complex cultural dynamics of faka’apa’apa, a respect-based relationship where men related to the female server must vacate the kava sessions. However, despite these protocols, women like Malia Tu’ineau from USP Laucala share experiences of feeling objectified, underscoring Kaufusi’s argument that contemporary interpretations deviate from the original respectful intent.
Kaufusi’s controversial comments have sparked intense discussions and, at times, personal attacks, yet they have also prompted many women to voice their negative experiences, shedding light on the less dignified aspects of the tradition. In defense of the tradition, kava enthusiast Alo Veikuna opposes banning the tou’a role outright, advocating instead for heightened awareness about the treatment and respect for the tou’a.
This dialogue surrounding the tou’a reflects broader regional discussions on balancing cultural preservation with modern societal challenges. Similar debates within Fijian communities highlight the tension between maintaining traditional authenticity and tackling behaviors that conflict with cultural dignity and respect.
The ongoing conversation inspired by Kaufusi’s podcast signifies a wider discourse across the Pacific about how to preserve the sanctity of traditional roles while safeguarding them from becoming avenues for disrespect and exploitation. As these discussions progress, they are poised to offer crucial insights into gender roles, respect, and the transformation of cultural identities within the region.