Tom Daley, the former Olympic diver and five-time medalist, has recently shared that he frequently hears from closeted queer athletes who seek guidance on coming out. In a candid discussion on the Just For Variety podcast, Daley expressed his desire to serve as a supportive “sounding board” for those grappling with their sexuality, particularly individuals from regions where being gay is still criminalized.
Daley revealed that he is often reached out to via social media by athletes in these environments, noting the complexities and dangers involved in coming out compared to experiences in more accepting cultures like the UK or the US. “I always say to them that I can be there as a sounding board just because it is a very lonely experience,” he mentioned, poignantly highlighting the isolation many face.
Reflecting on his own coming-out journey at the age of 19 through a YouTube video, Daley recounted the difficulties he faced as a queer teenager under public scrutiny in the UK. “Growing up… you try to overachieve in other areas because you want to distract from the thing that’s ‘wrong’ about you,” he shared, recalling how exhausting and secretive it felt to hide his true self.
Daley, who is married to Oscar-winning writer Dustin Lance Black and has two children, advocates for queer athletes to seek trusted mentorship during their journeys. His advice emphasizes the importance of having at least one confidant, stating, “Don’t struggle through it alone… just being able to have that one person you can confide in and talk about your struggles openly.”
Daley recently retired from competitive diving after a strong performance at the 2024 Paris Olympics and has released a new documentary titled 1.6 Seconds. The film chronicles his stellar diving career, personal experiences with coming out, and family life, offering insight and inspiration for those in similar circumstances.
This discussion not only sheds light on the challenges faced by LGBTQ+ athletes but also emphasizes the importance of support and understanding in overcoming personal struggles. Daley’s openness and commitment to helping others navigate their journeys is a hopeful message for many seeking acceptance.