A recent discussion on TikTok highlighted the double standard in how women and men in politics are addressed, with a TikTok user suggesting that Vice President Kamala Harris should be referred to by her last name, similar to her male counterparts. This perspective sheds light on broader trends across various professions, where women are often identified by their first names, while men are typically referred to by their surnames.
In politics, for instance, former Secretary of State Hillary Clinton is frequently called just “Hillary.” Similarly, in literature, one might think of Jane Austen compared to Charles Dickens, and in science, Marie Curie versus Charles Darwin. These examples illustrate the tendency for women to be addressed with their first names, suggesting a difference in perceived status.
Research supports this observation. A 2022 Mayo Clinic study revealed female doctors are twice as likely to be addressed by their first names compared to their male colleagues. Additionally, a 2018 report from Cornell University found that college students are 56% more inclined to refer to male professors by their last names than female professors.
Stav Atir, a social psychologist, pointed out that the preference for using first or last names tends to align with gender stereotypes, where women are seen as more approachable yet lower in status, while men are perceived as more competent.
The TikTok user argued that using first names diminishes women’s authority and infantilizes them. However, after reflecting on the issue, the author expressed a preference for being known by her first name. Notably, even Kamala Harris has expressed that she prefers to be called Kamala.
The author shared personal experiences regarding her last name and emphasized the joy of adopting her new husband’s surname after marriage. She reflected on how last names have historically belonged to others but do not define her strength as a woman. While she appreciates her unique first name, AnnaMarie, and the compliments it receives, she feels less connected to her last names, which she regards as mere formalities.
Ultimately, she is excited to move forward as AnnaMarie Kruse, signifying both her identity and her journey, while also desiring to be recognized beyond just her last name. Through this change, she embraces the opportunity to stand as an individual in her professional life and personal journey.