Recently, a discussion on TikTok highlighted the notion that women in politics, such as Kamala Harris, should be referred to by their last names, similar to their male counterparts. This perspective resonated with many, as it draws attention to how women are often treated differently across various professions.
In the realm of politics, for example, Hillary Clinton is frequently addressed simply as “Hillary,” while in literature, iconic authors like Jane Austen and Charles Dickens are discussed in a similar light. The disparity extends to science as well, with Marie Curie being referred to by her first name unlike Charles Darwin.
A 2022 study by the Mayo Clinic revealed that female doctors are twice as likely to be addressed by their first names compared to their male peers. Additionally, a 2018 report from Cornell University found that college students were 56% more likely to call male professors by their last names rather than female professors.
Stav Atir, a social psychologist, noted that the use of first and last names often aligns with gender stereotypes, wherein women are perceived as more approachable but also placed in lower status roles.
The TikTok contributor argued that using first names can undermine women’s authority and infantilize them. However, the author of this piece reflected on their personal preference and concluded that they would prefer to be known by their first name. Interestingly, Kamala Harris herself has encouraged reporters to refer to her as Kamala.
The author shared that their name has changed over the years due to marriage but feels more connected to their first name. The transition from having their father’s last name to adopting their husband’s last name is part of their journey. The excitement of a new name is accompanied by the joy of a new marital partnership, marking a fresh chapter in life.
The author celebrated their recent marriage with close friends and family, cherishing the shared life and name with their new husband, Sam Kruse. They also expressed pride in their unique first name, AnnaMarie, which has garnered compliments for its distinctiveness.
While acknowledging the necessity of an official last name in their profession as a journalist, the author embraced their identity as AnnaMarie Kruse, stepping away from the previous name, AnnaMarie Ward. They relished the opportunity to be recognized more personally and vibrantly, beyond just a last name.
Ultimately, the author hopes that women can be acknowledged for their contributions without being confined to the names given to them by others, celebrating the individuality that comes with their first names.