Melinda French has opened up about the emotional journey that led to her decision to leave Bill Gates after nearly three decades of marriage. The couple, known for their philanthropic work and three children—Jennifer, 29, Rory, 26, and Phoebe, 22—made headlines with their unexpected divorce announcement in 2021.
In a recent appearance on Elizabeth Day’s How to Fail podcast, Melinda reflected on the internal battles she faced as the couple’s relationship deteriorated. Despite the couple’s shared investment in both their family and their joint philanthropic foundation, she ultimately recognized the need to step away, acknowledging that signs indicating the relationship’s end became impossible to ignore.
Melinda shared that she often heard a voice urging her to leave, which she initially chose to dismiss. Her dedication to their children and the foundation they built together played a significant role in her decision to stay for as long as she did. “I believed in that work,” Melinda stated, underscoring the complexity of their shared commitments.
The split was complicated by revelations of Bill’s past infidelity and his association with Jeffrey Epstein, which Melinda described in her recent book, The Next Day, as “deeply disturbing.” The couple’s marriage had already faced scrutiny due to Bill stepping down from the boards of Microsoft and Berkshire Hathaway in 2020, which was initially framed as a shift towards philanthropy but later revealed to be linked to a past affair.
In recent public statements, Bill reflected on the divorce as a major mistake and recognized the significance of the years they spent together, highlighting the depth of memories created during their time as a couple.
This situation serves as a reminder of the challenges facing many couples, particularly those in high-profile relationships who navigate both personal and public pressures. Melinda’s willingness to share her story emphasizes the importance of self-truth and personal agency in the face of difficult decisions.
As both Melinda and Bill move forward, there remains hope for individual growth and healing, as well as a commitment to their philanthropic endeavors. With their joint legacy in philanthropy continuing, it highlights the importance of focusing on meaningful work even during personal upheavals.