Barry Diller and Diane von Fürstenberg’s relationship has spanned nearly half a century, evolving through a series of breakups and reconciliations. Their journey began in 1974, and despite separating in 1981, they reunited in 1991 and later married in 2001. Recently, Diller, now 83, shared insights from his memoir in the “New York Magazine,” which have sparked discussion about the complexities of their long-standing relationship.
In his memoir, titled “Who Knew: My Story,” Diller reveals that he is gay, stating, “Although there were many men in my life, there was only one woman,” referring to his enduring love for the fashion designer. He emphasizes that his affection for von Fürstenberg has never conflicted with his attraction to men, suggesting a deep, almost cosmic connection between them.
Their initial meeting took place in 1974 when Diller was becoming known as a media executive, and von Fürstenberg was establishing herself in the fashion world. Diller recalls their connection as an intense “explosion of passion” that persisted for years, igniting amidst social circles that valued discretion regarding sexual orientation.
Diller’s revelation shines a light on the historical taboos surrounding homosexuality, even within progressive circles during the 1970s. He reflects on the fear of public reaction and the pressure to maintain a façade, stating he was among those who did not feel free to express their true selves.
In response to her husband’s disclosures, von Fürstenberg told the “New York Times” that she does not view Diller’s comments as a coming-out but rather a truthful acknowledgment of his identity. She feels that he opened up to her long ago, and their bond has remained robust despite the revelations.
This narrative underscores both the complexities of personal identity and the enduring nature of love, celebrating how authentic connections can thrive despite societal expectations. Diller’s openness may inspire others to embrace their truths, reflecting a gradual shift toward acceptance and understanding in contemporary society.