Hilary Duff’s husband, Matthew Koma, has sparked a social media conversation surrounding Ashley Tisdale’s departure from what she described as a “toxic mom group.” This discourse follows Tisdale’s personal essay published in The Cut, where she candidly detailed her experiences in the group and the empowering decision to step away.
On January 6, Koma, 38, took to his Instagram Story to share a photoshopped image of himself on Tisdale’s body, complete with The Cut’s logo and a satirical headline: “When You’re The Most Self Obsessed Tone Deaf Person On Earth, Other Moms Tend To Shift Focus To Their Actual Toddlers.” His post seems to be directly addressing the themes of Tisdale’s essay, which was released just the day before.
In her essay, Tisdale, 40, reflected on the emotional toll of being part of a group that left her feeling excluded and marginalized. She emphasized the importance of recognizing when relationships no longer serve one’s well-being. “If a mom group consistently leaves you feeling hurt, drained or left out, it’s not the mom group for you,” Tisdale wrote. Her narrative captured a series of small incidents that ultimately led her to feel isolated, prompting her to reassess the friendships she had valued.
Recalling how she initially dismissed her feelings of exclusion, Tisdale noted that seeing her friends together without her on social media shifted her perception. “Now it seemed that this group had a pattern of leaving someone out. And that someone had become me,” she disclosed in her poignant essay.
Tisdale’s reflections hint at a greater sentiment shared by many mothers who seek community but sometimes find themselves in unwelcoming environments. Her earlier blog post from December 2025, titled “You’re Allowed to Leave Your Mom Group,” also highlighted similar themes, conveying her realization that support groups can sometimes devolve into destructive dynamics reminiscent of “mean-girl” behavior.
As this unfolding narrative illustrates the complexities of motherhood and friendship, it underscores the importance of prioritizing one’s mental health and emotional well-being in any relationship. Tisdale’s experiences resonate with many who may find themselves in similar situations, offering a hopeful reminder that reclaiming one’s peace is always an option.
People have reached out to representatives for both Duff and Koma for comment on this developing story.