It has been nearly a year since the world took a drastic turn on October 7. Lisa Kogan, an author and speechwriter, reflects on the reflections in her upcoming book, “On Being Jewish Now: Reflections from Authors and Advocates.” While her belief in God has waned, Kogan finds comfort in the traditions of Rosh Hashanah.
She enjoys setting the table with cloth napkins, supermarket flowers, and her mother’s wedding china, as well as savoring pomegranates and dates. The arrival of neighbors with challah from the local bakery is a cherished ritual, along with her dog propping himself beneath the table for any chance at fallen brisket. Kogan appreciates the moments when her husband encourages guests to put away their phones and when friends share humorous anecdotes about family.
Kogan takes pleasure in a unique tradition where everyone writes down their challenges from the previous year, rips them up, and tosses the confetti into the air before dipping apples into honey. This celebration serves as a way to reconnect and reflect.
However, as Kogan contemplates the past year, she cannot help but remember the devastating Hamas attack against Jews, the outpouring of anger on college campuses, and the disturbing rise of antisemitism. The pain for both Palestinians and hostages brings her deep sorrow.
She reminisces about her mother and the lessons she learned from her, recalling that her mother was never one to shy away from difficult situations. Kogan prepares for her gathering, echoing her mother’s nurturing spirit, which combined strength and compassion.
As she readies her home, she emphasizes the diversity of the guests she will host, bringing together people of different backgrounds and beliefs. Yet, they all share a common desire to leave behind the turmoil of the past year.
At sundown on Wednesday, Kogan and her guests will light the candles and recite prayers, reflecting on past memories and those they have lost. As the night unfolds, conversations will flow, food will be shared, and the gathering will offer a moment of contemplation about their lives and hopes for the future.