Elyce Arons has penned a heartfelt memoir, “We Just Might Make It After All,” dedicated to her best friend, the late fashion designer Kate Spade, who tragically took her own life on June 5, 2018. Arons reflects on their deep friendship, which began when they met as college freshmen at the University of Kansas. The two were nearly inseparable, sharing a bond that encompassed both their personal and professional lives, particularly during their successful venture into fashion with their iconic handbag line.
In her memoir, Arons offers an intimate glimpse into their lives, revealing the struggles Spade faced that were often hidden from the public eye. Arons describes Spade as “highly sensitive,” someone who felt emotions deeply. The loss of Spade left Arons in a “permanent ache,” pushing her to confront the grief and memories surrounding her friend.
An excerpt from the memoir shares a poignant recollection of the days following Spade’s death. Arons recounts confronting the emptiness of Spade’s apartment, recalling vivid memories and the joy they shared, like pulling pranks on one another. As she entered Spade’s bedroom, she felt an atmosphere of disbelief and sorrow, highlighting the stark contrast between their vibrant past and the somber present.
Their journey in the fashion industry was marked by significant achievements, including the inception of their brand Kate Spade New York and their contributions to expanding the handbag industry in the early 1990s. The partnership included family contributions, with Arons and Spade working alongside her husband, Andy Spade, and their friend Pamela Bell. The brand’s success culminated in accolades such as nominations for the CFDA award and expansion into other product lines.
Despite the immense success, Arons reflects on the pressures Spade endured, sharing a moving account of how Spade felt overwhelmed by the expectations that came with her rising fame. Their friendship remained a source of love and support, with dreams of future collaborations lingering in their conversations.
In sharing her story, Arons emphasizes the importance of cherishing loved ones and expressing gratitude. The memoir is a tribute to resilience and reminds readers to stand by one another, especially during difficult times. Arons’ hope is that her memories of Spade and her struggles can inspire greater openness about mental health.
“We Just Might Make It After All” will be available for sale on June 17 and can be preordered wherever books are sold. For those facing similar struggles, resources such as the 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline are available.